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(i wrote the following in my actual blog. simply cut and pasted it here. the reference i'm making is to revmitcz's book.)
i've been listening to a lot of emily haines lately. she has this one song called "the maid needs a maid." here's a video link where you can hear it:
listening to it got me thinking. i recently read a chapter in a currently unpublished (but possibly soon to be published) book that dealt with human sexuality. in this chapter, it mentioned that when a woman is asked what her top 5 most sought after traits in a male companion were, one of those 5 would be "has a career with stable income" or something similar. it also stated that when men were asked the same question with regard to a mate, "almost none" made mention of career. i was shocked. granted, i am unsure as to how thoroughly this was researched; but the author felt strongly enough about it to include it in the book.
i started to wonder how different i might be from the average american male. do most men really just want a maid? someone to cook them dinner and rub their shoulders when they get home? a trophy wife, perhaps?
it amazes me how quickly some dudes will fumble over a beautiful girl with no brains. to me, that's like looking at an inanimate object. i'm not saying physical attraction isn't important. of course it is. either you're attracted to someone or you aren't. past this point is where it starts to get hairy. to me, some of the absolute sexiest qualities a woman can possess are drive and ambition. am i really in the minority here, or does the average joe simply not care that much about whether or not a woman is career oriented?
different strokes, i guess.
here are the lyrics to the song in case you'd like them handy:
bros before hos
disagree on the sidelines
fight for a fee, the man needs a maid
the maid needs a maid
bros before hos is a rule, read the guidelines
you trouble me
your breasts heave when you sing
your mouth should be working for me for free
sewing up the fold 'cause i've been laid up
will you put on the fire for me
draw the bath and remind me to eat
you won't need a real job
you won't need a real job because i would love to pay for you
you could be a good wife to me
i would love to pay for you
you are the maid for me
-nick
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xtimebombx
Emily Haines rules. I've always loved Metric but recently came across her Soft Skeleton stuff.
FYI, part of me wants the homemaker side too. I love a girl that can cook. I just think that there needs to be a balance.
Addison
I am a perfect homemaker. I love cooking and baking and cleaning. But I also am working on my PhD and am planning on a career.
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I love Emily Haines, she's amazing.
I find it interesting that men aren't more interested in someone who is career minded and intellgent. While I do have a part of me that wants to be a homemaker, education and having a stable career and income of my own is very important too and I can't imagine that not being important in a partner regardless of gender.