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posted : 02/10/12 at 02:51am pst
Share a little bit about my work life....
I work in security and run a security team for a club/bar/pizza kitchen. In the area that I in there is literally 8-9 bars within walking distance of each other, with different types of clientel. Now this area is also known for its douche bags and princesses! Now those terms.... in my book apply to both sexes. I'll gladly call a guy a princess and a chick a douche bag if they are acting like it... just me being me and telling you the truth. In all honesty the truth can and usually is more painful than telling someone a lie (psychology = my friend). Because I'm security I'm thought of as an idiot, stupid, don't know anything, low on the totem pole... pretty much everyone is better than me! Trust me I've been told this by "regulars" and random people. But they don't know anything about me and I don't really share with them my education, IQ, or my knowledge of anything... let them believe what they want since it makes them feel better to "be above" another person.
Now as most people know the bar indusrty relies on repeat business like most industries do.... but also relies on word of mouth, walk ins and so on.... but the employees rely on the "regulars", the ones that always come back and you guys get to know each other and start a "surface relationship". aThere is nothing wrong with these types of relationships at all, it's good for buisness and sometimes it may turn into a real friendship outside of the bar/club. Nothing wrong with that either.
Now we come to the people that I have an issue with... those are the people that strart the "surface relationship", let it go on like normal then after a while start to expect you to do things for them, (i.e. get free drinks, let them in free if there is a cover, let all of their friends in for free, look the other way when they do something wrong and blah blah blah). Now the real problem I have is when a new place opens up in the area and everyone goes to that place instead, because it's new (honeymoon period for any new place) and chose to avoid the place they used to go to. Also not a problem I understand...
BUT if you choose to avoid your old hang out spot and accidentally run into one of the employees you had a "surface relationship" with of said spot.... DON'T pretend to be all sad that you don't get to see this person, DON'T say that you miss and love that person, DON'T say that person is your favorite person ever then proceed to ask how things are going over there! Cause that just automatically makes you a douche bag and a loss of respect from the employee, because you could have easily just walked by the bar and said hi, don't even have to stay! These actions just make you appear to be full of shit and trying to keep that "surface relationship" alive in hopes that you will still get the same treatment when you decide to return for what ever reason.
This may work with some people who are impressed with your money... or entranced by your beauty if you are a chick... but speaking for myself none of that shit matters to me at all! I will also tell you this to your face and in turn make you feel small for trying to do the same to me! I speak my mind and let you know whats going on whether you like it or not!
I don't care a bout your beauty, your boobs, your ass... I may not be the best looking guy in the world and that may make you thing you can try and use your beauty, also I don't care how much money you say you have, if you have a black card or what kind of car you drive to use and try to get stuff out of me... but I can promise you that I'm the wrong person to try that on.. I'm there to do my job and thats it... and I do my job very well! I know this because I have the support of local patrol officers and sergeants that I see every time I work also I have talked to the police and fire chiefs that have praised my partner and I for the work we do and that we are the only security team leaders in the area that they respect and talk too.
What you should gather from this is that I'm a very straight forward person... don't try to pull one over on me (if you feel like you succeeded in doing so it's because I realized what you're doing and am figuring out how to have it nlow up in your face)... don't be fake, whether you are good friends or just aquantences. Be respectful because you don't know what the other person is capable of doing when you break their trust and most importantly don't ACT/THINK you are a PRINCESS/DOUCHE BAG and that you are better than anyone cause I can gaurantee that you are not and that you will eventually run into someone like me that will take it upon himself to make you feel stupid for how you acted!
Thank you and have a good night! HAHAHAHA.......... Everyone needs to learn to just go out and have a good time and thats all!
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Jasper
02/10/12 10:29pm pst
First of all, I'm really glad you posted a blog. I'd like to think I had a little something to do with that. Hahhaha.
And I totally agree with what you're talking about. Having always worked in some kind of comission based industry, I see a lot of people always trying to get stuff for free or basically abuse any small amount of privilege they're given. It totally sucks and it's definitely aggravating.
Takes a lot to keep your cool after awhile.
tookngs
02/11/12 03:47am pst
Unfortunately in the area that I work the asshole element will always be around no matter what, but thank you for the hoping for the best for me hahaha!
Jasper: You can think highly of yourself right now cause you did push me to write a blog so it is your fault! Hahahaha. If I couldnt keep a level head about most of the shit I deal with every week (death threats.. I am the king of death threats and have a reputation as the most hated bouncer in my area just for doing my job very well hahaha) I wouldnt do the job anymore! I actually enjoy it most of the time and yes that does make me an asshole but Im a different kind of asshole. I can turn it and I can be the sweetest person youve ever met!
tookngs
02/11/12 03:49am pst
I will always tell you how it is cause I always have and I have and always will!
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EEP! Some people just don't know how to act. I wish more people would just tell it like it is. When you cater to bullshit it makes the bullshitter thing it's ok to be like that. Hope the assholes are at a minimum for you from here on out. <3