i'm really pissed off/disappointed/disgusted.

over the weekend we played a benefit show for a friend's band mate that died at 18 from a brain anurism.  fucking bogus consequences.  we were set to be the 2nd last band on the bill.  the headlining band, had not shown up yet.  these guys are dudes my band has known for years and over the last how-long they have gotten a massive ego-trip into themselves, showing up to tiny shows with their smoke machine and lights, fancy hair and painted nails.  it's fucking stupid.  giving people running shows hell and being really rude/elitest.

so we were playing and they had still not arrived yet.  i thanked all the bands that played throughout the day and then said 'but no thanks to wish for wings, no fucking thanks'  just after i finished sayign that they roll through the door dressed up to the 9s and wheeling in all their gear.  we finished our set and it was fucking awesome, the energy was electric and it's probabyl the most emotional show we've played.

after we played i went straight to the merch to catch my breath/sell shit whilst our band packed up.  one of the members form theb and in question came over to me and started bailing me up from accross the table, getting more and more escalated.  then another one of them came over and they both threatened to beat the crap out of me etc etc etc.   so they are all 'you had plenty to say up there now what the fuck do you have to say now?'  i explained to them that it didnt look like they were showing up, we had heard a million things about them being rockstars and bullshit lately and it made me angry.  noone who was running the show had any idea where they were or why they were so late.  they let noone know.  every band that played was there from before the first band played.  it was disrespectful they way they just expect to show up whenever they want to.  so the dude that came up first kept being like 'so you wanna have a go?  well lets do it'

i'm not a violent person, ever.  i refuse to swing fists and try to avoid a reason to fight at any time.  i explained this to him and he said 'so you can't back your words up?' and i repeated what i'd said about respect etc.

so they left and started setting up, and half the room came up to me wanting to know what just happened, and i told them, and all agreed that what i said needed to be said, and that they would help me get out of the show without having my head handed to me. 

our bass player, who is long time friends with one of the dudes in this band left without saying anythign to any of us, and i later learned he was embarressed by me etc.  i sms'd him saying i stand by what i said and i feltl ike i had a right to say it.

so the next day comes and shit calms down.... and i log into our bands myspace to find a FRIEND REQUEST from this dude that threatened me, and in the notes it said 'yo stu you fuckin ass, theo nly reason i didnt beat your mouth in is because i was there and saw mitches family/friends in pieces at his funeral'

now, i have a couple of problems with this action.

a) why request to be in my friends list for my band, who obviously doesn't support theirs
b) why tell me about the funeral?  there's no need to martyr yourself by telling me something he did.  and if he WAS at the funeral, you think he'd have the respect for the kids memory to front up to the show early or at last let people know where they were
c) why threaten violence?  lifting fists is the first sign of guilt.  talk it out and give explanation instead of making yourself feel better by hitting someone else.
d) if you're so worried about the way people think about you, show up on time, don't be cunts to people, don't threaten people infront of 150 kids at a charity show
e) if you're convinced you're such an upstanding citizen, don't threaten over the fucking internet?!!!  don't do it in the notes of a friend request.... just don't bother.


people are idiots, fuck anyone who fights, fuck all this pride based bullshit, fuck jock attitudes.   if he had hit me i would have been on the phone to the cops and the jerk can see me in court for assault. 

"with a mind far greater than your fucking fists"