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First off - huge thanks to everyone who read/listened to that last sample chapter. It gave me a boost of confidence about the project that I simply can't describe. It's hitting a note with people, male and female. In just 3 pages, somehow I achieved genuine interest from folks who are now yelling at me to "finish the damn book already!".
That being said, it's also very hard for me to get up the courage to put all of my work onto the written page. This is a labor of love for me. I've spent many years actively working on the material and I'd be lying if I said I haven't, at least in some way, sort of spent my whole life trying to unravel the mysteries I'm trying to uncover in the book. So, putting that sample chapter up in the first place felt like inviting the whole world over to give me an in-depth physical. "Go ahead.. put a finger in my ass, complete stranger!".
Now comes a veritable "moment of truth". This chapter I'm seeding out (again in both PDF and MP3 formats) is the most representative work of the book. It's the first non-introduction chapter of the book. It sets the stage for everything that comes after it. It's brutally fucking honest. Men and women, both, will likely feel a sting of discomfort at some point in the course of the 7 pages of this chapter. And, frankly, I have no idea how the world at large will handle it.
This chapter encompasses my years of research and my personal interpretation of that data in a way that ties it all together to make a point that I feel needs making. This chapter is about the term "slut" - what it means for you, what it means for me, and what it absolutely does NOT mean.
It's over twice as long as that first sample chapter (7 pages instead of 3) and my semi-dramatic reading of it clocks in at 18 mins, instead of 6 mins. I think the average reader could plow through it in under 12 mins - and the only friend of mine so far who's read it managed to read it twice in 20 mins. So... your mileage may vary.
With all of that out of the way, if you're ready..
Download the 1st chapter of my upcoming book by clicking here
As per usual, any and all comments are welcome and you can comment anonymously by sending an email to : book@revmitcz.com
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revmitcz
I had a small display error in this version at first. I had to upload a fixed version. Would you mind re-downloading it before you read it? Sorry :-/
(but THANK YOU!)
xtimebombx
I'd buy it. Hell, so far most of what you've written is along my train of thought.
The one thing that doesn't quite mesh with me though is the whole men not seeking a career oriented girl. I guess I'm personally way out in left field with that.
revmitcz
Heh. See, this is why I use qualifiers like "most", "many", and "almost all". I know there's fringe cases, but if you want to see a direct example of what I'm talking about, check it :
http://www.godsgirls.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=22344
I'm with you, though. If I were making a list of what would be IDEAL - it would definitely include a woman who had some shit going on in her life career-wise. Even if it's not particularly making her a lot of money, as long as she was passionate and talented at it.
xtimebombx
Man, you are seriously right along the same line of thinking as I am. I don't care how much money a girl makes; just as long as she is doing something with her life. It's not about the money, it's about the drive and ambition.
By the way, I completely get the "most, many, almost all" generalizations. Thinking about it; I have never been traditional when it comes to women. It's fair to say that most guys wind up being the providers and most girls end up being the baby factories. I could just never vibe with that.
revmitcz
Absolutely, man. We're on the same page. I the post you referenced in a comment on the entry before this, and thought "I really wonder what he'll think of the book". In fact, I read it WHILE I was writing this chapter, so I think that helped influence a few more of my turning back the dial on generalizations ;)
I like non-traditional thinking. It's helpful for this project, especially. I've gotten some great responses in posting these sample chapters that show some cool grey areas I never thought about - so MUCHAS GRACIAS for your input and your candor.
Scarlett
Oh god. I am downloading the chapter, and I am already feeling very apprehensive about reading it. That word is really the only bit of language that has a definite and violent effect on me.
Update: I've skimmed and I don't hate you yet, excellent! Will read in depth now. You mentioned research and data--coming from an empirical scientific background myself, I'd love to see said research and data--without analyzing the validity of the utilized methods and statistics for myself it's hard to decide whether or not I agree with you (although I haven't read the first chapter, maybe you talk about that stuff in there).
It's risky of you to address this topic as a male, so I applaud your ballsy-ness, so to speak. xD
revmitcz
You're the target audience for this chapter. I REALLY want to know what you think when you're done reading through it. Please update me if/when you're done, cause I'd be fascinated to know. And, frankly, the word "slut" has always bothered me too - because it's so often misused and degrading in the worst ways possible.
Scarlett
Cool, I'll read both chapters and get back to you. I can be a little verbose sometimes, so I apologize in advance for the length of what I'll probably send you!
revmitcz
Preach on sista! You can never be too verbose with me :)
revmitcz
Oh, and to speak to the research and data aspect :
Honestly, my series of notes wouldn't be anything you could chart or analyze unless you were me. Not because it's particularly advanced - but because much of it is either small pieces of notes (keywords mostly, that can trigger a memory of the full conversation), audio notes, a few video recordings, a lot of IM conversations... etc etc. Also, there's several hundred hours of shit in my head of just remembering pieces of casual conversation I've had, and observations I've made as I trundle along in life.
The chapter before this one I just posted will be focused on people like yourself (and me) who wonder "so where did all these ideas come from?". It goes into some depth about the methodologies, the conversations, the sample size, the sample people, the reactions, etc.
Kinsey (who's not only a personal hero of mine, but also WAY in his own league above me) admittedly had some sexual affairs with some of his subjects - so I'm letting myself off the hook for having done the same thing - not in ALL cases, by any means, but in... quite a few :)
wychlea
I'm already planning on buying this book. I hope it's a best seller. It's really insightful.
A good friend of mine, Chris Mancini, is a comedian/writer/director (like everyone else here), and he just got his first book published through Simon and Schuster this past summer. It's a humorous first-time father book. If you haven't found a literary agent yet, I'll ask him about his. I know he located him online, though. And Simon and Schuster was the first and only publisher he pitched the book to, so must have an effective pitching style. :)
~ Neil
revmitcz
Oooh.. very nice. I'm holding off on doing the literary agent search for when I actually finish the motherfucker, but it's nice of you to offer and I'm sure I'll be taking you up on it :)
wychlea
Just let me know, pally! :)
Libi
Excellent.
Even better than the first little blip.
I want to read the entire book >.<
Anja
Just started reading it and I dig it so far. The word "slut" doesn't affect me much anymore; I've been called a slut since I was 11 years old, and it fucked up my self-esteem because I was only a child, but I got over it. When I realized that the girls who called me that are just jealous, I just grew to ignore that word every time it's been thrown at me. I know many girls have had horrible experiences with that word, but I feel like if you are confident about yourself and your sexuality, and that you are in control, then words are just words and nothing else.
It was funny for me to read the qualifications for a slut; they all describe my former best friend J so accurately!
I can't read the rest of this book!
revmitcz
Funny that you'd say "former best friend" - I assume you fit the "got tired of her shit" stance I talked about. Good to know I'm not too far off on that, having heard it a number of times.
p.s. - did you mean to say "I can't wait to read the rest of this book"? or are you actually saying you can't read this book? ;)
Anja
hahaha, yes I meant that I can't wait to read the rest of the book.
I actually did get tired of her shit. She'd have a new guy every week and then cry and whine when they dump her, but she's too stupid to see the pattern.
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Thank you for being so forthright and honest about your intentions concerning your work. I've downloaded the second part and will be reading it later.