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I've said it before posted : 11/06/09 at 07:41am pst

and I'll say it again:

 

 

 

I don't believe in paying someone to strip for me, to give me a false sense of companionship, or to talk to me.  sorry.  I just don't.

 

 

yea this one is short.  you missed a good one .... the end of my last journal was really quite profound. 

 

 

which leads me down that path of no one here actually cares, it's all just a show. 

It's like a strip club, minus the physical interaction, and live visual stimuli.  

and if you knew me at all you'd know I don't believe in paying someone to give me a false sense of reality or rather:  a false sense of hope.  which is pretty much  what this site has become for me.

 

=(

 

 

you can call this what you will.  I'm sure someone will say something completely ignorant like "stop being so emo!"  or something completely out of touch like "buck up kiddo!"   or even better: "stop being self defeating."

 

yeah that helps! /sarcasm.

 

 

edit:

Addendum:   I probably should have mentioned this earlier, I made a comment to this journal but some are missing it:

11/06/09 05:06pm pst

I realize I did not specify: I know the girls here aren't paid to talk to me, they're paid per set and get a membership. or something to that degree anyhow.

 

What I was referring to was the last time I was dragged to a strip club and some relatively attractive working girl con'd me into going back to the "notorious" VIP room. She spent "4 songs" out of 5 (30 second songs now what?) telling me about her kid and her life. which would have been great if it was over a cup of Coffee or Tea, where I wasn't getting charged $30 a song. she kept making it seem like "that was a short song I'll start at the next one" and of course she was gorgeous as far as I could tell and like I said I'm a sucker for a pretty face/body.

 

since that experience I've never been back. I don't desire to go back and I'm not trying to compare GG to a strip club but it's just been giving me a similar empty "what is the point" type of feeling.
 

 

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Angela
11/06/09 08:08am pst

i'm sorry to read that godsgirls makes you feel that way. i see this website as a fun place, where us gals not only get naked, but we have fun doing it. we like flirting and talking with members, and if that gives you a false sense of hope, then that's a bummer, but that shouldn't be what it's about. it's supposed to be a happy place. i hope you change your mind. <3

TheUberDork
11/06/09 11:39am pst

I'm not saying that I don't <3 the girls here.  they are all ...you are all... really beautiful.   that's what makes it difficult for me.  I'm also  living on unemployment right now.  

Angela
11/06/09 12:02pm pst

ahh yeah, i know what you mean. i have been on unemployment and it sucks big time. it's super hard. even harder to find/keep a job these days.

TheUberDork
11/06/09 12:18pm pst

I had the most stable job ever working for a Charter School.  making the kids their IDs and Diplomas. and I was also responsible for ordering and stocking all the break room and office supplies for our shared offices.    but it turns out my supervisor was a 2 faced person  who would act all sweet, kind, and innocent towards me. but behind closed doors she had it out for me.  for reasons I'm still not sure of.  maybe because her Ex (husband?) and I were work buddies.  maybe because I didn't add her as a friend on facebook.  I really have no idea.    the Manager of the whole department liked me though   but yea  I wasn't the only one that got laid off 3 in total from our department.  All of IT.  and ALL of curriculum  (somewhere around 30 jobs).

LynsieLee
11/06/09 09:03am pst

i think the site is a little more intimate and personal than what you've observed. it takes two parties to make a great connection, so maybe if you change your approach you will find that this site has more to offer. A lot of the models become friends, even companions, in real life with members. plus you can't really masturbate in a strip club :P

TheUberDork
11/06/09 11:45am pst

I have observed a lot here.   for instance a girl's boyfriend getting pissed at me for flirting back... and well a whole bunch more.   Trust me, I appreciate anyone who talks to me on here.  I know they aren't forced or required to. I'm just a sucker for a pretty face.

Aleks
11/06/09 09:17am pst

look, i wont fight you to stay but one less alk3 fan on this site sucks.  i know that sounds really pathetic and all but i've always found a true bond with people who love ALK3 enough to brandish their symbol.  They have almost always been the most genuine of people, and i value that.  So although i haven't really been the chattiest person on here well hell not even close to semi active as of late, i would like to engage in the art of converstaion with you at some point.  It doesnt matter whether it's on here or aim or facebook. Whatever you prefer.  i'm down.  ^_^  

TheUberDork
11/06/09 11:51am pst

Aww Shucks Aleks.  thanks.  I'm not leaving quite yet.  I am sticking around but only because the unemployment checks keep coming :(

 

ok not ONLY because- Also because there are so many beautiful girls here.  it just depresses me; I start thinking about how I don't think I'll ever find myself  dating a girl half as good looking or intelligent as any of the girls her.  I know I shouldn't look at it that way but I do.  relationships... I suck at them.

Aleks
11/06/09 02:06pm pst

 its cool i suck at relationships too.  way too insecure.  not to mention ive met guys off of here that made me never want to talk to another guy again.  Fortunately i lucked out and got a second chance with an amazing guy.  It's never about looks, trust me on that, all the insanely good looking ones (men and women) are pricks/cunts.  i went through the last year pretty much dating/fucking any guy that told me he really liked me a lot.  all because i was so insecure and thought hey if this guy really likes me/loves me then maybe i have a chance but of course like i said, shit bag/prick/cunts etc.  now let me say i didnt just fuck everyone  there were like 3 guys and 1 girl haha...  still not exactly awesome but i thought that it was right and apparently i couldnt have been more wrong.  how this has anything really to do with this conversation i dont know but it feels nice to vent sometimes.  You just need to meet a nice girl, and no offense to the girls here but one that doesnt get naked on the internet.  <333

TheUberDork
11/06/09 04:58pm pst

hmm. But maybe one that could pull it off if they wanted to?  (getting nekkid on the interwebz that is).   I haven't been in a serious relationship in....  well I don't know that I've ever been in a "serious" relationship actually now that I think about it.

I mean they were serious to me. my feelings were invested. but it never seemed equal with the other person in the relationship.

Addison
11/06/09 09:20am pst

I agree that this site is much more personal than you seem to have gotten with it. I don't believe the interactions are false and that the sense of companionship is fake. You aren't paying to have people talk to you.  The girls don't get paid on any sort of sliding scale that would reward them for talking to members. When someone talks to you it is of their own free will and desire. I feel like you're saying you're thinking of leaving which nobody wants at all.  All the girls I know, myself included, love talking to the members and getting to know them and I would love the opportunity to get to know you better AND to prove to you that this site does have REAL companionship.

Serena
11/06/09 11:42am pst

I pretty much just want to copy and paste what Addison said. I dunno, the members I've gotten close with, I genuinely care about. I'm sorry I haven't gotten to know you very well yet, but that's easily changable. :)

TheUberDork
11/06/09 11:58am pst

I don't hold it against anyone.  I don't resent anyone on this site.   it's just every now and  again I'm reminded that I'm not where I want to be.  and getting to where I want to be is totally beyond my grasp.

TheUberDork
11/06/09 11:56am pst

I know.  no one is forced to talk to anyone.   maybe I've just been more down in the dumps lately since getting laid off and not being able to find a new job.  

 

I've tried to build friendships.  but  it's not exactly friendships that I want.   I always am on "the friendship tip".  especially with any girl I find particularly attractive.   it's depressing being in this state of mind. I'm a-feared I'll never be happy.

Yael
11/06/09 09:46am pst

Well yeah we haven't talked a lot, I'll give you this, but you're one of the members I "follow" = I find more interesting than the others...I would be saddened to see you leave :'(

TheUberDork
11/06/09 12:14pm pst

I had no idea that I was being "followed" by anyone.   I'm not leaving yet...  

but it's getting harder and harder to pay for an account here (I lost my job back in July and still haven't been able to find work).

 

Maybe I just fall for a pretty face, and a kind word way too easily.  I interpret it wrong.

Finch
11/06/09 01:24pm pst

There is a special secret place for members like you, where you can get a special secret discount membership.  Because we really do appreciate you, and all the other members. 

Don't disillusion yourself into thinking they crack the whip on us to say things like this, or as you said in your last entry, "no one put a gun to your head and made you." We say what we want, and we're honest. 

 

No one or thing can make you happy and fulfilled except for yourself.

TheUberDork
11/06/09 04:51pm pst

this is why I totally <3 you Finch.   That and your epic curves of amazingness.  but mostly, it always seems like you know what to say and do. Your boyfriend is the luckiest guy on earth!  that's probably cliché.

I know no one is being forced to say anything to me.  

The things you say run deep. and you are right.

thank you.

Adora
11/06/09 03:43pm pst

i don't think we've ever spoken (or typed lol) but i never say anything to anyone that i dont truly feel or want to say. GG isn't supposed to make you feel bad, its supposed to give you a sense of community and fun + boobs which is a bonus. i'm sorry you feel this way and i hope that you change your mind! i think we're all super nice girls who honestly care about the members. <3

TheUberDork
11/06/09 05:10pm pst

a lot lately it's felt more like a constant reminder of what I will never have. 

there are a lot of really nice girls here,  nice personality, not just physical beauty.    most have both... and that's what makes it difficult for me.

there are a handful that are not so nice.  and are,  well,   jerks / assholes, etc.  but that's everywhere in life.  no matter what community one can be a part of there will always be the good and the bad.

Adora
11/10/09 08:19pm pst

you shouldn't think like that! but on another note, i agree with what you said about community. hopefully you stick around :)

TheUberDork
11/06/09 05:06pm pst

I realize I did not specify:  I know the girls here aren't paid to talk to me, they're paid per set and get a membership.  or   something to that degree anyhow.     

 

What I was referring to was the last time I was dragged to a strip club and some relatively attractive working girl con'd me into going back to the "notorious" VIP room.  She spent "4 songs" out of 5  (30 second songs now what?)  telling me about her kid and her life.  which would have been great if it was over a cup of Coffee or Tea, where I wasn't getting charged $30 a song. she kept making it seem like "that was a short song I'll start at the next one"   and of course she was gorgeous as far as I could tell and like I said I'm a sucker for a pretty face/body.  

 

since that experience I've never been back. I don't desire to go back and I'm not trying to compare GG to a strip club  but it's just been giving me a similar empty "what is the point"  type of feeling.

Imogen
11/06/09 09:30pm pst

What's the point in anything? You get what you put in. If someone is enrolled in a class and they just show up and maybe listen, they're not going to do well in the class. You have to be motivated and take advantage of the information made available.
I'm not saying you aren't entirely trying, but you do need to change your mindset.

Community is important here, I know we're not getting paid to talk to you, but we don't get paid any less if avoid you either. Know what I'm sayin'? I've become friends with some models on here, and hung out with a few members, and I hope to befriend more, it just so happens I'm unfortunately located in bullshit wisconsin away from everyone.

Try to stay positive, it totally does help. like someone else said, you're one of those members I "follow" I don't always comment (because I am not always online catching every journal" but I do pay attention. :)

TheUberDork
11/06/09 11:40pm pst

I know.  I don't catch every journal update either. 

 

just a little let down I started getting quite profound towards the end of it ... there was even music to entice people.

 

I really need to try Finch's photo project sometime here soon.

Imogen
11/07/09 07:51am pst

Yes, the photo project will be super fun! Even aside from site wise, it's making me think more about things I visually take for granted every day :)

Kyle
11/08/09 05:26pm pst

I was really confused t first reading this like you were using gg as an online dating site or something but after reading further I think I understand.

I really hope that not to many girls have been jerks, because thats not what the sites about. I'm glad you can see through to the nicer girls. As for somebodies bf getting mad at you, that guy needs to be sat down and have a serious talking to(how parental sounding. what a jerk! his girl friends naked on the web, does expect members not to talk to her.

p.s

I like your uberdork name lol

TheUberDork
11/08/09 06:55pm pst

Thanks Kyle.  My old best friend's name is Kyle... or well my first best friend. =)

Leona
11/07/09 07:05am pst

I don't post alot. I kinda lurk in the shadows. But I think you pretty awesome   :)

TheUberDork
11/07/09 07:33am pst

aw shucks Leona, you know I think you're pretty much the raddest girl on earth. =}

Gabrielle
11/07/09 11:05am pst

You know this site has naked women on it right? I would suggest enjoying that.

 

If you want to take that as something condesending or what have you, that's your choice, but I'm saying this as advice from one human to another, niot because Im paid to do so. I get paid for the images of my naked body being used here, not a cent of it is for site activity.

I understand that you might not like comments that seem ingenuine, or are negative ("buck up", "emo.") but someone telling you that maybe youre being a bit hard on yourself, taking this all far too seriously for what it is and so on...well...that actually is a pretty genuine opinion and I think discrediting that because you dont want to face it is unfair.

I dont know how your luck with women is or if you even give a damn if it isnt great luck, but if you arent going to be a more self supporting, positive human being its going to be really hard to make a connection with a woman that would actually treat you right. Being negative, overly defensive, and focusing unwieldingly on arbitrary issues is going to send any smart girl running. All the negative content and all the demand for some kind of reassurance (and the standard by which you demand that reassurance) is a lot of strain to put on strangers and people who are here to lift one another up and enjoy and revel in all the good things we have to offer and learn from eachother. And some people are here just for the tits. All in all though, people want to feel good, and make others feel good. And whatever the approach, the ones that want to be assholes can just continue on being assholes, you have to ignore that. Because like you, they probably need to figure out a few things about themselves that are pretty serious.

Which by the way, getting a "buck up kiddo" response isnt the worst thing in the world. Imagine if you just sat in the office or a classroom and you were asked to share how your day was, and you spouted off about how shit it all was and how no one there was meeting your expectations or hopes....think about how people would react. A "buck up, kiddo" would be one of the nicer responses, and at least they said anything at all.

Again I dont know how you live your life day to day, but if you are as seemingly as much of a pessimist maybe youd be happier if you tried giving more attention to the things in your life you are taking for granted. be greatful for what you have...because Im going to make a really confident and earth rattling assumption that your life is actually not all that bad.

TheUberDork
11/07/09 04:44pm pst

I meant to clarify and did (if you had read my own comment on my own journal  .. a few   "threads"  up  that I wasn't talking about Godsgirls being "paid to talk to me"   I know that is not how it works,  I've been here long enough.  I was referring to an experience I had at a strip club where I was con'd into well spending a lot more money than I thought I would be/intended to.

 

I think you missed the point of my journal just a tad.

 

I'm looking for something here that I cannot find.  that I am not meant to find here. and it's obviously leaving an emptiness within myself.

and that, on top of being unemployed is just getting to me lately.

Gabrielle
11/07/09 11:18am pst

I also want to add that I'm happy to see that you were proud of something you wrote in your last journal. That's great. Hang on to that, seriously. What you need to remember though is that not everyone is going to see/ aknowledge / appreciate the great things you do. That goes for everyone. Some might even criticize and put you down. Ignore it unless its constructive criticism.

Power on and forward!

Gabrielle
11/08/09 01:28am pst

You should not be HERE looking for anything that is so severely serious that it  leaves you feeling as empty or anything that drastic. That's illogical. Pay more attention to your environment and how to interact with it more effectively to benefit yourself and your inner feelings.

 

And if you actually were originally referring to the strip club incident then I would highly recommend more detailed journals. What you wrote was easily misconstrued especially having been posted on a website where girls pose nude and interact with members.
I would also recommend that the next time you go to a strip club that you only bring a certain amount of money AND that you realize that any money youre putting down is for the nasty awesome show being put on in front of you. You know the last time I went to a strip club I went in with an awesome attitude and 20 dollars. I saw the inside of her vagina. She flexed it at me. I was slightly alarmed but i definitely got my 20s worth, and part of that was spent on ice cream.

And for the record, I didnt read other responses and replies that followed your entry. I read what you wrote and replied to you.

Marl
11/07/09 09:53pm pst

Hugs and kisses. Keep your head up and enjoy the little things in life and the boobs on this site <3

TheUberDork
11/08/09 01:12am pst

I try to  =)

Lux
11/08/09 03:18pm pst

 greg, you are a genuine and nice person, full of potential to be even more awesome, but your defeatist attitude is what keeps you in the dumps. you shouldn't need someone to make you feel happier. you don't need anyone as long as you live for yourself. what you are looking for now, will fall into place when it is supposed to and when a woman can look at you and say "wow, that guy really has it together and he is content and happy with himself, his life, and what he already has." i am surprised that you don't already know that people (romantic or otherwise) don't complete your life, they enhance and enrich it. we've all been in our fair share of shitty relationships, and i feel like i definitely learned that i do not need a companion to be happy. please, look at what is going on inside yourself, how you approach conversations and daily activities, and look at it more positively. your perception is your reality, and if you approach everything so pessimistically it will be exactly how you want to see it.

 

now i am saying this for real, you better cheer up or else!

TheUberDork
11/08/09 05:11pm pst

=}

 

you make me smile.   I'm trying Lux.      I wrote that entry when I was in a particularly down in the dumps pit of attitude

thanks.

 

 

wait... or else you'll come down here and beat my ass up??  =D 

-at least I'll get you to come down here hahah.

-kidding-

I'll try and keep your words and the words of many of the girls who've commented here in my brain. 

 

Thank you  for your help  and  for caring. 

Lux
11/09/09 12:24am pst

 of course, man! it's all about the mindset. just keep swimming.

:]

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