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I found out this person committed suicide recently.
I thought something had happened to him, didn't mean to be a lurker but I still pay attention to people who used to be in my life and I spend a lot of time thinking about them. Maybe too much time? But my point is, I don't forget about people and just make a new revolving set of friends. But sometimes things happen and people have to take sides, and it isn't always your side. But that is okay.
I just remember people as they were in my mind, the personalities good and bad don't really change much inside of my memories. That picture of Dan was taken on my wedding, when I got married to Wes. Dan was a funny motherfucker, and smart as hell too. I wonder how his family is, and how his brothers and parents are doing right now.
All I can say if you feel like you may be ready to end your life, just try and hang on a little longer, call someone, anyone, even if its a helpline. I know sometimes it hurts so much that you feel you are out of any coping mechanisms, there is energy enough to get you through this. http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/
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Athame
Wow how disappointing, funny, smart yet he still felt empty inside enough to leave this world.
I'm so sorry to hear that:(
Cyn
Its a hard thing...it hurts & makes you wonder...
this made me sad...I am sorry love...
missmoneypenny
As someone who has worked in a psychiatric unit I used to see the tragedy of suicide every day.
The commonest reason for a suicide or attempted suicide is a cry for help. Men are usually too afraid to ask.
If you have a friend who is contemplating it then the best thing you can do is listen, listen and do more listening. All too often - especially with certain ethnic groups- the family just lectures and does more lecturing. What I would suggest is always keep in touch with your friends.
There are certain things that put you at much higher risk of suicice
Being male,
middle age
no partner or recent break up.
no job
financial worries
a past history of certain psychiatric illnesses
a past medical history of long term debilitating illnesses
taking illegal drugs- puts you at much higher risk
certain occupations (farmers, doctors, accountants, lawyers - anyone who works anti social hours).
However if you ever get admitted to a psychiatric unit the first thing you say to them is "I am going voluntarily" that way they can't committ you under the law.
thebeat
I'm sorry you lost a friend. He's at peace now. It's so hard to wrap my mind around suicide...
Juliet
thats awful....I've been through people commiting suicide and its never an easy thing
Desra
:( have you ever seen the documentary "the bridge".....very eye opening and sad.
Aglaia
HUGS
Martini07
=( *hugs* When I felt like committing suicide last month. A lot of this community was there for me and I'm glad too because it really felt like crap. There was someone on here who didn't help at all and it hurt me to see that. My friend killed himself last year and I have a tribute tattoo for him and at the bottom of my tattoo it says "Life is too precious to waste" and it's true.
v8dreaming
i'm sorry miss lady. :0(
Missa
:/ sad. I hate losing someone.
Vaalea
that's a beautiful post, your friend can be proud of you. RIP.
KeikoAkaClara
tooo sad :( I'm so sorry honey :( big hugs <333
Phreaker
I never know what to say to things like this. One of my closest friends went through some really rough shit when his father took his life a year ago, or something like that. That friend is now taking heavy drugs to escape reality and I'm left clueless on what to do. Suicide can in some cases never be seen on the horizon. How is it possible to distinguish depression and depression that's bad enough to not only consider it, but to do it as well? I don't know, and I don't think anyone does. One can only hope that one is able to catch some sort of cry for help.
I'm sorry for your loss.
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wow thats sad
ive had friends commit suicide
and i never knew why